Good Behavior = give him all the chance

The Good Behavior Book by the Sears... When a baby is not a baby anymore, so when he starts to say 'NO' we felt like our child which had been just about a 'sleep-poo-pee-eat-sleep' lovely creature had a real 'me'. And as a dad, what am I suppose to do? What's my role, not as a diaper cleaner but as a model, an authoritative figure?
This book managed to reply these questions, along with making me think a lot about the dad I want to be. Of course, I can only try to compare with my own dad. That's normal, I do not know any other way. There are things from my childhood I found great, others not so great, so I know more or less what kind of dad I'd like to be. But is this gonna be OK for my son?
Right, this is it: your kid point of view matters. It means I should put myself in her shoes so to say. Then if I understand her world I would not just give authoritative rules, but reasoning and therefore I would give the keys to understand and progress.
Well, easier said than do! It's been hard to follow. We are trying everyday our best, with a lot of respect for our child and we hope one day we'll be so proud of him that we'll know at that time we've made it: a good parenting.